Optimism is a must for life, but a huge must for anyone going through infertility or adoption.
To put it point blank, the odds are against you ever becoming a parent.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the number of married women (between ages 15-44) who struggle with any kind of infertility is 2.1 million.
And that's not even including the men folk.
Then there's the odds of being able to adopt a newborn
(if you're like us and didn't want to go severely into debt)
According to the site Adoption Under One Roof, for every newborn available for adoption there are an estimated 10+ families hoping to adopt them.
And the waiting period can vary hugely.
So optimism is essential during this process.
For us, maintaining optimism meant stop focusing on what we couldn't control:
like when the baby came
And to focus on what we could control:
like spreading the word that we were adopting
recruiting others to Team Holt to spread the word
getting awesome photos taken of us for pass along cards
networking with other infertile/adopting couples
We also enjoyed doing things as a couple for "the last time for a while", knowing that we could still have a while till we were picked.
But it made all our fun times during "waiting" that much more meaningful.
There is so much you can do to maintain productivity while you're "waiting" and thereby maintain a sense of optimism for the future!