Friday, May 28, 2010


We're now over 1,000 visits!

Thank you so much to everyone who reads our blog! We appreciate you guys!

Have a great Memorial Day weekend!

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Just "Relax"

Normally I don't vent on my blogs I really feel the need to :(

Today we encountered more insensitive infertility remarks and misguided advice to "fix" it. It seems to always be my grandparents, either side. Not because they're trying to be mean. But I think they just simply don't understand; like so many others.

We were again told that maybe we're doing "it" wrong. Really? Is that even any of your business??

We were again told we just need to "relax". Wait till all those infertility Dr's find out they're gonna be out of a job once all of us infertile folk learn  how to "relax". I wonder what other diseases or disorders relaxing can cure? 

I really don't mean to be rude, but how hurtful are comments like those? I'm pretty sure that after 5 years it could be assumed we did our due diligence in trying to get pregnant naturally. More importantly we followed the impressions of the Holy Spirit and let the Lord direct us in how we should start our family.

There will always be people who don't understand. And it's not their fault. And I'm not mad at them, just upset at their ignorance. I feel it totally undermines everything Gavin and I have went through so far to become parents. Too bad I didn't know before the painful HSG test that all I needed to do was "relax". You wouldn't tell a cancer patient to relax in order to be healed. Why do people assume infertility isn't a real disease/disorder?

Whenever I get comments like these I'm hurt and a little upset. But I know the next day I'll wake up and be totally fine. Despite the pain of infertility, I wouldn't trade our experiences for anything. I love the people we've become from going through this. I love the things I've learned. I can't help but feel grateful for a loving Heavenly Father for sticking it out with us through all this. I have a neat dream I had that I'll share that for me, put this "trial" (or blessing) into perspective for me. Maybe it'll help you too.

I dreamt that Gavin and I were in a hospital waiting room. There were many couples there and one delivery room. There were nurses rushing in and out of the delivery room giving couples babies. Gavin and I were excited to be there and patiently were waiting our turn. After a while we started getting antsy and started talking to some of the nurses. They assured us we were on the list but it wasn't our time yet. Ok ok, we sat back down to continue waiting. More waiting. More couples coming and going with sweet babies. Where was ours? We finally got fed up of waiting and left. In my dream I then recalled all the fertility struggles we went through in real life, leading up to the point where we prayed and decided to adopt. After that decision was made and we knew it was what we were supposed to do, I walked kind of stormily back into that hospital waiting room and right into the delivery room up to our Heavenly Father who was the one who had been delivering the babies.

Upset I asked him, "If you had wanted us to adopt all along, why didn't you just tell us in the first place?"
Lovingly he turned to me and asked, "Would you have listened?"

I get teary every time I recall this dream because I know the answer is No. I wouldn't have listened. I don't look back on these 5 years as wasted efforts to become parents. I look at them as the road necessary to get where we are right now.

I hope this helps put our adoption into perspective. Love you guys!

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

FHE & a Swagger Wagon

I'm always a little afraid of getting too personal on here, or too silly, but since that's completely my nature I figure I'd make the exception today :)

Last night Gavin prepared a wonderful FHE. Sunday night we had the privilege of meeting some descendants of the Prophet Joseph Smith. It was amazing. The son we met looks so much like all the art of the Prophet I've ever seen! So last night for FHE, Gavin had us read the First Vision as a family. It was awesome. I'm so grateful for this gospel and a loving Heavenly Father! And a wonderful husband who prepares wonderful Family Home Evenings.

When we first started having FHE we were a newlywed couple. At first I thought it was silly. There was only 2 of us and we were together every day! Why did we need "Family Time"? However we felt strongly that our small family still needed this and prayerfully moved forward. It has been such a blessing to our small family over the years and I'm very glad we didn't wait until we were blessed with children to start it!

On another note, a coworker sent this to me yesterday and I have not been able to stop laughing over it!

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you the (epic) Swagger Wagon!

You know we'll have a swagger wagon one day! LOL, Have a great Tuesday everyone!

Monday, May 10, 2010

A Good Home

In FHE tonight we read a great quote by Gordon B. Hinckley from his book Stand A Little Taller:

A Good Home

No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned. -D&C 121:41

"Good homes are not easily created or maintained. They require discipline, not so much of children as of self. They require respect for others, that respect which comes best from acceptance of the revealed word of the Lord concerning the purposes of life, of the importance and sacred nature of the family, and recognition of each member of the family as a child of God."

I loved this quote and thought I would share. "Good homes are not easily created or maintained." That is so true. We hope and pray we'll be able to welcome a little child into our home. We have worked hard these past 5 years to make our home our own heaven on earth. Gavin's sister and her husband have created another heaven on earth in their home. We pray for Gavin's sister and her family as they pray that my new little niece will be able to forever call their family "home". Love you guys! We're praying for you!

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Happy Happy

Yesterday was Birthmother's Day! Happy Belated Birthmother's Day to all the wonderful birthmother's out there!

And, Happy Mother's Day everyone! We enjoyed getting together with family celebrating the wonderful Mother's in our lives.

Some exciting news in our lives... Gavin's oldest sister and her husband are doing foster-to-adopt with the state. They have 4 children but still felt like someone was missing. This past Thursday, our anniversary!, they welcomed a little Princess home into their family!! Right now its only temporary but we're all anxiously hoping it will become permanent! We've all fallen in love with her! She is so precious! On Sat morning her foster father gave her a Priesthood blessing. Gavin's sister started bawling because she realized that little girl wouldn't have a father or the  Priesthood if not for foster care. No matter the outcome, we're all very glad this little one is with us and pray for the birthmother as well. What a miracle families are!

Have a great week everyone!

Thursday, May 6, 2010

5.0 Anniversary!

Today is our fifth anniversary, or as we call it: Our 5.0 Anniversary! :)

This morning I started off with Rhode's cinnamon rolls, my favorite! Then I snuck a back of plain M&M's (Gavin's favorite!) into his backpack with a note that 1 M&M is for each time I'll think of him today, with 1 M&M=1 million of course :)

Then I presented him with a stack of secret letters I've been writing him over the past 2 months. That was a tender moment :)

Here's to a great 5 years! Can't wait for these next 5!

Here's us over the past 5 years :)

This one's really old! From our engagement!

Happy 5 years!

Monday, May 3, 2010

Gotta catch up

I'm sorry I haven't gotten a chance to catch up yet, though I did post a small bloggy post on our regular blog today! This may be short, or I may start rambling, but brace yourself! lol

First, can I just say how much I loove the R House blog? She always has the greatest things posted there to uplift and inspire me to not be mopey! As most of you know, the "wait" period is the hardest part of adopting. Gavin and I took inspiration from one of the General Conf talks this past April, I think it was actually from the Priesthood session: Don't just endure, but endure well. So we're taking that to heart and whenever I get discouraged Gavin lovingly reminds me of this. It does help when I have fun summer plans to stop me from pining away for a little addition to our family. I'm still pining, but at least the fun summerness pushes it to the back burner!

Second, our 5 year anniversary is this Thursday! We're so excited. Being somewhat nerds Gavin and I decided on that day we can say we've been married exactly 5.0 years! Rather than "5 years" which indicates rounding up or rounding down. But a decimal point means exact! At any rate yay for 5 years!

I didn't hesitate to give him suggestions on what we should do after work for our anniversary. After going to the temple (a tradition) I suggested he take me out to dinner with flowers. For which he burst out laughing and I was severely tickled. It was only a suggestion! ;) I even went as far to venture that perhaps where we eat dinner should be a surprise to me lol. I think he's taking my advice, can't wait to see!

Have a great Monday everyone! I'll be better at posting once school is over on Tuesday! YAY!


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